Using a self-reflection process can bolster your confidence, self-esteem, and productiveness. For example, you may say: “weight loss is a marathon not a sprint” “it’s okay to start over” or “I can still do this.” Once you determine the reason, you can decide what you’d do differently next time and engage in productive self-talk. Or maybe you just wanted to each more that day. It requires you to: (1) take the time to observe what went wrong and (2) think about what you might do differently next time.įor example, if you’re on a weight-loss journey and one day you eat excessively, you might become self-critical by saying something like, “I’m a failure” or “I’ll always be fat.” Instead of doing this, give yourself grace and try to figure out why you ate too much. Self-reflection is an observational, non-judgmental process. When you’re tempted to engage in self-critical talk, show yourself grace and try to self-reflect. It’s destructive to your confidence and limits your ability to reach the height of your potential. In fact, barring toxic environments, most negative remarks that you hear about yourself probably come from yourself. “I’m so stupid”, “I always mess up”, “I’m not pretty enough”, “I’ll never have X”).

Speak kindly to yourselfĮveryone engages in negative self-talk (e.g. So it’s imperative to show yourself grace just as much as you do for others. So naturally, when things go awry, you begin to feel inadequate and are hard on yourself. You are keenly aware of your flaws and your blunders. Why is giving yourself grace so damn hard? It’s probably because you know yourself better than you know anyone else.

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